The Sex Therapist

Toys, porn and the produce aisle

Dr. Belisa gets down and dirty about getting down and dirty as she answers questions about finding a good man, staying healthy and the threat of sex toys.

Q: Is there any way to prevent a back-to-sex yeast infection after a stint of celibacy…

A: YeastGuard is herbal suppository I like. Double up your acidophilus, really clean off your toys and nix the thong. Watch for “glycerin” in water based lubricants—Glycerin mimics sugar, promoting yeast and bacteria growth.

Q: Guys who only chat me up at bars because they want to sleep with me get on my nerves. How do I find the good guys?

A: Think about books like The Rules—it’s all about picking up girls—at bars. Stop going to bars and look for good guys at volunteer events or meet-up groups — anything in the daylight. A serendipitous meeting is very sexy, but it doesn’t happen as often as in the produce aisle as we’d like. You still have to be strategic; going to male dense events doesn’t hurt.

Q: Why do some men feel so threatened by sex toys?

A: They feel like they will get replaced, or that in some way we’ll eventually just chose the toy over them because it is easier.

Q: My women friends all wonder why there seems to be a stigma with women enjoying adult movies. Thoughts?

A: Women have become more sexually assertive and independent. They are either watching more or admitting to enjoying erotica now.

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