The Sex Therapist

Is Bigger Better?

Bigger is better. Always. Right?  Wider screens, longer waterslides, thicker steaks. But is there such a thing as too big when it comes to a guy’s man-parts? Abso-friggin-lutely. When many (if not most) women are staring down a porn star sized penis, they simply say, “thanks, but no thanks.”

So where is the fine line between jussst-right and scary one-eyed anaconda? When women huddle over salads or martinis to make these life-changing decisions about what is too big and what is too small, what are they considering?

Relax fellas, before you spend your hard-earned cash on creams, pills, potions and length-promising devices, the LifeStyles Condoms Sexual Satisfaction Survey Size has some good news: size is nice… but not a necessity. Yup, 55% of women think penis size is only somewhat important. Just goes to show that it’s not what’s in your pants that matters, just how you use it.

Fact is, there are few nerve endings more than two inches into the vagina. So longer equals, well nothing. And it can actually be uncomfortable. So if she says, “ouch” – believe her. She’s not trying to pay you a compliment. You need to switch positions pronto. The second most common thing to troubleshoot: lubrication. Have it close at hand and in copious amounts.

Getting interesting? Read on: Most women — at least 70 percent — can’t climax with intercourse alone. So talent in the manual or oral stimulation is far, far more important than you may realize. Sure, studies that consider what is visually pleasing lean towards heftier cuts of man-meat, but when it comes to practical usage, it’s about three things: reading her non-verbal signs, knowing the female anatomy and having enough sexual pride to stay attentive to her needs.

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