Women who have not experienced an orgasm likely still enjoy having safe sex with their partners – but those who have reached climax know that sex with an orgasm is very different from one without. But how does one overcome the challenge of achieving the female orgasm?
Janelle Albukhari, a writer for the Daily Californian, suggests that women spice things up – particularly during foreplay. Ask your partner to use their fingers and tongue in new ways to stimulate you, and don’t be afraid to experiment.
“Gauge your partner’s reaction to each technique and adopt the one that yields the most applause, so to speak,” writes Albukhair. “Everyone likes a considerate lover.”
Additionally, she encourages a technique known as the Coital Alignment Technique, or CAT. This simply involves a sex position in which the male pubic bone rubs against the clitoris in a rhythmic fashion. Albukhari claims that this has increased the chance of female orgasm by 56 percent.
This can be achieved by having the man on top in the “missionary position,” or using pillows to raise the woman’s pelvis.
Women may also want to experiment with personal lubricants and a vibrating device, such as the LifeStyles® a:muse™ Personal Pleasure Massager. According to WebMD, female masturbation can also improve a lady’s mood and relieve stress.
The health website also states that like men, women’s masturbation habits vary in terms of frequency and style. Remember that masturbation can be done alone or with a partner – in fact, self-pleasuring while watching your lover do the same can be quite the turn on, and can also be a fun prelude to sex.
One study, led by Debby Herbenick of the Center for Sexual health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, found that of the 2,056 female respondents between the ages of 18 and 60, more than half had used vibrators either during sex or while masturbating.