Role-playing is a great way to spice up your sex life, but it’s not really the sort of thing you can just blindly jump into. In order for your sexy games to go smoothly, you definitely need to make sure you and your lover are on the same page and fully prepared for the special evening. There are a few different things you should discuss prior to your big night.
1. Talk about the fantasy
Whether you and your lover are exploring your fantasy or you’re going to bring his or her desires to life, it’s important the two of you talk about what each of you would like to get out of the experience. You can have a frank discussion about it, or you could make it more exciting by talking about it during foreplay when you’re getting down and dirty. This will help build anticipation for when you actually take the plunge. If you keep things vague, the fantasy could quickly escalate to a nightmare.
2. Set some boundaries
Unless neither one of you has any qualms about what goes on in the bedroom, you will probably also want to discuss one another’s limitations. Setting boundaries before you go into role playing will help you avoid spoiling the fantasy by perhaps taking things too far past your lover’s comfort zone. This will also help you both stay in the moment without worrying about whether things are going well. If your role playing fantasy is very involved, you may want to set up a safety word that can be used to stop the action in its tracks.
3. Don’t forget about safety
Just because you’re acting out a fictitious situation doesn’t mean you can forget about reality completely. Your sexual health is always a priority, so stock up on condoms before your big night. Using condoms is the best way to prevent the transmission of STDs. While you’re at the store, you may want to pick up some personal lubricant or even a vibrating ring to spice up the occasion even more.
4. Practice by yourself if you’re nervous
Stage fright can translate to the bedroom, so if you’re worried about your performance skills, hold a solo rehearsal. You can always go online to look for examples of the particular scene you and your lover are reenacting. Having a cache of phrases in your head can help you avoid freezing up in the heat of the moment, and being prepared may give you that extra bit of confidence you need to make the experience even more real for your boyfriend or girlfriend
5. Get lost in the moment
On the big night, do your best to forget all about your inhibitions and immerse yourself in your character. Try to look at your lover as though he or she has transformed into their role as well. If you are preoccupied with thinking about the fact that you are role-playing, you won’t be able to enjoy the experience as much.
Acting out a sexual fantasy can be a fun way to explore your sexuality and grow closer with your partner. However, if you find at any point that you are not enjoying things nearly as much as you thought, there’s nothing wrong with hitting the brakes. If one of you isn’t entirely into it, the experience will probably not be too enjoyable for either of you. You can always try again another time with another fantasy, as well.