For some, losing their virginity is a rite of passage that can’t come soon enough. For others, it’s a daunting catalyst for anxiety unlike any other. While it’s important to wait until you are with someone you trust and care for, there are certain measures you can take to prepare for your big day in order to make sure things go as smoothly as possible.
First things first, before you make any moves, talking about sex is essential. Set aside some time to talk with your partner about whether or not you are both ready for the next step, and if so, when. This doesn’t have to be some awkward conversation, you can discuss it over a romantic meal or while on a walk somewhere private. And remember, though it may be tempting, no texting or Facebook – this is definitely a conversation that should happen face to face.
Once you’ve come to an agreement with your partner, it’s time to start the planning phase. While a certain amount of spontaneity is a good idea, you don’t want to find yourself “up sex creek without a condom.” Be sure you have everything you need – from condoms to personal lubricant – before you start to get down for the first time.
When it’s finally time and you feel things are starting to happen, it’s important that you try to relax as much as possible. It’s sure to be a somewhat nerve-wracking experience, but remember that the first time doesn’t always make or break it. This is particularly true if both members of the sexual encounter are virgins – it’s likely going to take a few tries before you get the knack of knocking boots, so don’t beat yourself up if there are a few awkward flubs.