The honeymoon has become a big deal in wedding and relationship culture in the U.S., with newlyweds enjoying a vacation full of sex and relaxation. While some people may wait until the honeymoon to have sex for the first time, others may take the opportunity to spice things up in the bedroom.
However, what many couples are not prepared for is returning from their honeymoon to find that they must go back to all of their other responsibilities, sex therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson, writes in the Huffington Post. Nelson writes that in the beginning of any relationship, it’s so new and exciting that people make sure to stay romantic. Following the wedding, the honeymoon and even the honeymoon phase, which can last for up to two years following the wedding, many couples may find that there are more challenges than they once thought.
In what she calls “The Sweatpants Phase,” couples tend to eat more, dress however they want and let sex become a comfort rather than something exciting. This could even include scheduling sex on specific nights of the week with little wiggle room.
Nelson suggests that any partner who is frustrated with this phase should talk to their significant other, and that communicating with one another is a big part of sex.
According to Stay Hitched, the first two years of marriage have the highest risk for affairs because once people leave the honeymoon stage, they may start questioning their relationship altogether and may want to move on to more exciting things. This could be another reason why communication is so important to keeping a marriage intact.