Whether you’ve been dating for a few months or a few years, moving in with your boyfriend is a huge step and there are a few things to keep in mind when you decide to take things to the next level. Living together can really make or break a relationship, so be sure you’re ready for such a commitment before you dive in.
Make room for one another
Up until now, you and your man have had separate homes and spaces that are all your own. Adjusting to suddenly sharing a space can be tough, but as long as you talk to your boyfriend about what’s bothering you, the two of you should be able to come to an understanding. It’s equally important to be willing to make sacrifices for him. You might have more clothes than you know what to do with, but if he needs closet space too, you may need to downsize your wardrobe. If you absolutely cannot part with your clothes, consider packing up out-of-season items and storing them elsewhere to give yourselves some extra room. The same goes for his stuff. If your boyfriend has stacks upon stacks of comic books that are taking up a lot of space, ask him to box them up and keep them out of sight.
Creating a shared environment
Even though you may have a picture in your mind of what you want your home to look like, make sure to include your guy when it comes to decorating. Whether he’s moving into your house or you’re getting a new place together, let him collaborate with the design and layout so the space feels like it belongs to both of you. If you’re moving into his place, don’t force him to take down his Jaws poster just so you can hang up pictures of your girlfriends. He may resist change and not want his room to be “girly.” In this case, remind him gently that you two are living together now and he’s going to have to make a few sacrifices. You may also want to designate a drawer or a shelf for your condoms, personal lubricant and any intimate toys.
Don’t freak out over the little things
Maybe you didn’t notice that your man is kind of a slob before you lived together, but now that you’re under one roof you’ve grown painfully aware of his annoying habits. Instead of flipping out when he drops his dirty laundry on the floor next to the hamper or doesn’t do his dishes, it is best to remind yourself he’s not used to living with you yet, either. Sit down and have a calm, rational conversation about the things that irk you. Brace yourself for some reciprocation, as he’s likely got a few complaints as well. If you want him to work on what bothers you, be prepared to work on your own flaws as well.
Keep the romance alive
When you live with your boyfriend, you may find the two of you get very comfortable around one another. Before he might have only seen you when you were all dolled up – or at least presentable – but now he’s
likely growing accustomed to Sunday sweatpants and messy hair. This is a natural progression for a relationship, but it is also healthy to revisit the days of mystery and excitement. Make plans to cook dinner together or meet after work for a fun date.