When you’re in the bedroom with your partner, what are you thinking about? Are you worried about a job or waiting for a text message from a friend? Maybe you’re thinking about the Periodic Table for an upcoming exam.
The bottom line is, if any of the above seem familiar, you’re thinking too much during sex. In a survey conducted by Men’s Health magazine, 42 percent of women surveyed said that the key to great sex was passion. And passion means no distractions. Turn off the iPhone, shut down the computer and shut the door. When it’s time to knock boots, your partner wants to know that she is the only thing on your mind.
One way to do this is to start talking to her – or if you’re really into it, find a way to vocalize your pleasure, even if it’s just grunting. The
survey indicated that 90 percent of women get turned on by even non-verbal noises. Listening to your breathing can also help them tell whether you’re fully in the moment or trying to remember if you left the refrigerator door open.
To really help set the mood, spend more time with sessions of foreplay before the actual sex. In fact, the magazine recommends trying to get cozy with a partner without penetration at all.
“‘Foreplay’ is a terrible word because it implies that it’s leading to something more important,” sexuality counselor Beverly Whipple told the news source. “You’ll both have more fun if you think of it as sex play and make it about discovering and enjoying each other, not just reaching the finish line.”
For a really novel experience, try introducing something new to the bedroom, like LifeStyles’ Warm Lovin’ Personal Lubricant™. The silky and smooth texture can lend some heat to the action – literally – and is sure to be a great choice when it’s finally time to reach that finish line.