Whether you’re on the prowl for a one night stand or you’ve had your eye on a fellow barfly for some time, it can help to have a game plan when you head out for the evening.
What to wear
Wear something you’re comfortable in. If you don’t like spending your night constantly tugging at the hem of your skirt, find one long enough so you don’t have to bother. The same goes for low-cut, revealing tops. If you’re fine with showing off some skin, then flaunt what you got, but don’t feel like being scantily clad is the only way to get the cute guy at the other end of the bar to notice you. It’s also a good idea to avoid high heels if you’re not a pro at walking in them after having a few drinks. Don’t rely on a guy to catch you, as he’s probably had a few himself and you don’t want to wind up on the floor instead of in his arms.
Getting a guy’s attention
When you spot a cute guy at the bar, it’s perfectly fine (and fun) to catch his eye and play the cat and mouse game for a bit. Once you’re sure he’s returning your charming smile, don’t be afraid to make the first move. If you’re with a group, he might be too shy to approach you, and the same can be true if he’s got his buddies in tow. You can try to wait for the chance to “bump into him” at the bar or take a bold approach and walk right up to him. If you’re unsure what to say, compliment his witty t-shirt or ask him if he can recommend a good drink to get the conversation started.
Conversing at the bar
You shouldn’t expect a man to buy your drinks, but if they offer it’s okay to accept the invitation. It doesn’t mean you’re obligated to go home with the guy. If it’s just the two of you, keep the conversation light and flirty to let him know you’re interested. When you find yourself among him and his friends, include them in the conversation but keep your attention focused mainly on him so there aren’t crossed signals. The same goes for if he has joined your group. Keep him involved in the conversation.
Getting him out the door and into your bed
Don’t stay in a group the entire night. As the evening progresses, you can put a bit of distance between you and your girlfriends. This will let him know you’re interested in possibly getting out of there – together. Don’t feel pressured to go home with the guy that night. You can always exchange numbers and meet up another night. However, it’s always good to bring along a few condoms just in case. If you do wind up knocking boots, you’ll be ready. Plus, it’s always good to practice safe sex with a new man.
Always be yourself
While it may seem like a fun idea to adopt a fake foreign accent or try on a new personality at the bar, when you wake up in the morning you’re likely to forget your ruse from the night before and confuse your new guy. This can be especially bad if you felt an actual connection with the guy and wanted to see him again.