Dating and Relationships

Ahhh, dating. The land of the free and home of the brave. Whether you’re thinking of taking the proverbial next step or just trying to figure out who and what you like, you’ll find advice for singles, couples, and everyone in between.

A Woman’s Guide to Defeating the Green-Eyed Monster

Jealousy is a perfectly natural human emotion that you may experience when your man checks out another woman. It’s that sensation that makes you want to grab the gal by her hair and make sure she knows that your boyfriend belongs to you, and sometimes it can get out of hand. For instance, actually lashing out at another woman for talking to your guy is not exactly an ideal situation. So how do you deal with those feelings without winding up in jail or alienating your boyfriend?

If he checks out women when you’re out together

You probably know this is a reflex most guys don’t have a lot of control over. They can’t help it, just as you can’t help fawning over cat videos or cooing at babies. The best thing to do is to try and ignore it. Making a big deal because he’s looking at someone else may create problems and tension because he probably feels like he’s doing nothing wrong. Well, you reserve the right to bring it up once. Politely ask him to knock it off, or remind him that he has all the woman he needs sitting across from him. That should be enough to jar his attention.

If he’s flirting with the waitress

Flirting is often the go-to way a man interacts with the ladies. He may not be aware he’s hamming it up while ordering dinner, thinking that he’s just being polite and friendly. Don’t jump down his throat at the A woman's guide to defeating the green-eyed monsterfirst sign of a friendly flirtation, but if he makes a habit of sweet-talking every female he comes across, it’s time to speak up. If he still doesn’t get the hint? Well, maybe that’s a sign he’s not the one for you.

If he has female friends

Even though you may accept that your boyfriend has friends of the fairer sex, knowing that he’s going to hang out with them while you’re not around can be nerve-wracking. Unfortunately, there isn’t a lot you can do to escape this pang of jealousy. You have to trust him, or he might start to resent you. If you’re paranoid about the ladies he’s platonically hanging out with, ask to meet them. Once you get to know them you’ll be able to see that there’s nothing to worry about.

If he does take things too far

Being jealous of your man when he hangs out with other women is something you have to learn to live with. However, if you really think he is up to no good, you may want to take a few steps to protect yourself. First, get tested. If he’s dumb enough to fool around behind your back, you shouldn’t assume he’s thinking about practicing safe sex and wearing condoms. Take precautions to protect your sexual health, even if you’re not 100 percent sure he’s cheating – the last thing you want is STDs to remind you of your unfaithful ex.

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