When guys usually think about foreplay, they envision at most a half-hour before sex. The ritual could include any number of techniques or maneuvers, but it’s generally something reserved for the bedroom.
The problem is that most women don’t see it that way. For females, it seems that foreplay is an all-day experience – from a romantic dinner to a movie and all the way back to the bed. Men often fail to appreciate that something they do wrong in the morning can affect a woman’s libido at night.
The two major keys to getting her turned on is to relieve her of anxiety and make sure that she’s completely comfortable, according to AskMen.com. Research has shown that any negative emotions can slow down the time it takes for a woman to get aroused.
“What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm,” says the study’s lead researcher, Dr. Gert Holstege, the news source reports.
The website recommends that guys get down a list of what works and what doesn’t, even if it’s in their head. New partners will always have to learn things about one another, but once you find something that really sets a spark, keep on working at it.
Not only that, men should always try to play to their strengths. If they’re especially good at a certain type of foreplay, then try to specialize. That doesn’t necessarily mean something between the sheets, either – a romantic dinner is sure to set a woman at ease.
No matter what route you take to the bedroom, make sure to always use a condom before knocking boots. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, such contraceptives can significantly reduce the risk of common STDs and help prevent pregnancy.