Losing your virginity can be a nerve-wracking experience. Until you’ve actually had a session between the sheets, the world of sex can seem both alluring and intimidating. If you’re gearing up to have your first roll in the hay, here are a few things you should know before you take the plunge.
1. Relax about your body
This may be one of the first times that you show your naked body to a member of the opposite sex, but you shouldn’t let this thought cause you to panic. Because you’re both going into this experience willingly, then odds are the other person is pretty eager to see how you look without any clothes on. It’s natural for anyone of any age to have insecurities about their appearance, but sex is a time when you can lose yourself in the pleasure of another person’s body, and forget about the parts of your physique you’d like to change.
2. It may not go as planned
You’ve probably spent quite a bit of time imagining how your first time will go down, but it’s important not to think too carefully about what you expect. Sex should be a spontaneous event, and during a romantic encounter you’ll likely find out that your partner has different ideas about how things should proceed. This isn’t a bad thing – one of the beautiful parts of sex is that both parties get to voice their needs and wants, and revel in the pleasure of attending to their partners’ desires.
3. You can take it slow
Just because it’s your first time doesn’t mean you have to do every single act on your sexual checklist. In fact, it may be wise to take things slowly. Start out with some fun oral play, or invest in a vibrating device, like the LifeStyles® a:muse™ Personal Pleasure Massager for some mutual masturbation fun. If you want to stick to oral sex your first time, then pick up a few flavored condoms to bring the experience to a new level.
4. Practice makes perfect
Don’t worry if things get a bit awkward during your first experience, especially if your partner is also losing his or her virginity. In the movies, sex may look completely effortless, but in reality it doesn’t always go so smoothly. Fortunately, the more time you spend with your partner, the better sex will become. You’ll soon learn what he or she likes and dislikes, and each session will get steamier as a result.
5. Safety first for your first time
Don’t listen to people who say you can’t get an STD your first time – it’s a myth. Similarly, women are able to get pregnant even during their first experience. For these reasons, it’s essential that you wear protection each and every time you have sex – even if you’ve never done it before. Wearing condoms will keep both you and your partner safe.
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