It is always fun to mix things up between the sheets, and talking dirty is a great way to get your guy worked up. If you’ve never tried this before, the idea may be off-putting, but there’s no need to be afraid. Whether your man has asked you to whisper naughty things in his ear or you want to surprise him, there are a few different ways to approach it. If you’re nervous, you can start out slowly and work your way up to the big leagues of dirty talk. Mastering this erotic art can not only excite your man, but it can give you the confidence to tell him exactly what you want when you’re getting intimate.
Don’t dive into the deep end if you’re not ready
Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily have to mean describing intense pornographic scenes to your lover. One way to get the ball rolling is to tell your man when he does something that feels good. Offering him compliments will encourage him to continue what he’s doing. From there, you can build up your language, being more specific. Instead of just saying, “That feels good,” you can try something like, “I love the way you make me feel when you…” and fill in the blanks. This is a great way to warm up to talking dirty and gives your guy the opportunity to find out what turns you on and what doesn’t really do it for you.
You don’t have to use language you’re not comfortable with, as it can sound contrived and take both of you out of the moment. However, if he makes you feel so good you feel the need to call out to the deity of your choice, let loose.
Sharing your fantasies can turn both of you on
When you and your man are fooling around, this is a great time to tell him about one of your fantasies. Describe what you’d want to do to him as well as the things you’d like him to do for you. Hearing you talk about what turns you on will likely get his motor running. You can also encourage him to tell you some of his fantasies. Hearing your guy tell you what he likes could have the same stimulating effect on you as reading “Fifty Shades of Grey.” In fact, it’ll probably be better, because you get to hear these sexy sentiments in your man’s voice.
You might also find out the two of you have mutual interests. Maybe you’ve each been aching to try a vibrating ring, but neither of you had the courage to admit it until now. Talking dirty can be a great gateway to new sexual experiences.
Try dirty talk outside the bedroom
Once you’re comfortable saying naughty things to your man, you can try using your newfound skill while the clothes are still on. Whispering not-so-sweet nothings in his ear at dinner will get him excited for dessert. You can also send dirty text messages to your boyfriend while the two of you are apart. This will help pass the time until you can be together again and make you even more excited to see one another.
You don’t have to sound like an erotic author to make your man swoon
While watching porn or reading dirty stories can help you expand your erotic vocabulary, you don’t need to imitate these examples. In fact, trying to emulate a scripted scene can sound cheesy. Trust your instincts and say what comes naturally. If you have trouble at first, don’t give up. Dirty talk only gets easier the more you do it.